Who is to BLAME?

By Kamala

Why are there so many people with so many problems and difficulties. We are all trying to get by, to take care of our responsibilities and have a good life. But every time I try to accomplish something productive someone says that I shouldn't. Someone says that is not the right thing to do, or say, or think, or want, or feel plus many more things you have experienced that someone disapproves of. We are living in a country that is supposed to be dedicated to personal freedom. The question is, who regulates our freedom so that we do not hurt others and why is that regulation needed?

Lets begin with why regulation is needed, because that seems to be the cause of everything. Any choice made that becomes a reality in our world is done because of our sense of need. The first question to ask is what is it that you need that you must rely on others to acquire? Then follow that path to the things you do in order to fulfill their requirements for giving it to you. Now, we can categorize this in four ways. 1. How I get what I want 2. How I do what others want from me in order to accomplish #1. 3. How I balance #1 and #2 so that I survive without being a threat to someone else. 4. Accepting personal responsibility only for my choices in the application of #s 1,2 and 3. This is quite a juggling act as you can expect. The process of evaluating all that I do, say, think etc., taking all of these things into account can be so challenging that many people get discouraged and give up and give in to whoever is strong enough to take control. ie; regulate my actions with laws and rules made up accordingly to what they think will work. At this point I have nothing to say about it. I have given them authority over me.

How do I change this and get my life back and in my control? First, I must accept that whatever control others have over me, they have it because I have given it to them. The symptoms of this in my life are the feelings that it is someone else's fault and I am the victim. As long as I blame something or someone else for my situation then I am POWERLESS to do anything about it. Many blame God for either causing their conditions or allowing them. AND!! Of course, we are never to challenge God. God gave us free will. Therefore, if I give my power to an outside force, God is committed to making sure that they keep it. After all, you gave it away and that means you do not want it. RIGHT? OK, now we are on the right path. That we don't want it is a lie. The first place to start this process is in finding what is the truth. Remember, they say "The truth will set you free". So. I am responsible for my reality. If I think someone else is to blame then I am giving my power to them and I now take back my power so that I can do the things I want to.

The second thing that I must do, is not take responsibility for what it has caused in anyone else's life. If it hurt them, it did so because they were not in their power and did nothing to stop it. As I begin to see the truth, I must now have the courage to release others from the unwritten contract that says they are responsible or in control of me and vice versa. We must all write a new contract that says we are all free to explore this new world of hope and fulfillment that can exist when I transcend the victim, perpetrator model.

The third thing, that can now coming into it's own, is that we can participate in a reality where being different is not a threat but rather an inspiration to the God given creative beings that is the truth of who we are. We can work as a team or as a loner. Both are advantageous to the whole. Sometimes it takes what is called "Cruel Love" to not play the victim/perpetrator role. Watch how the guilt trips that people pull on us leach our energy and strength. Learn to reject that reality in your life.

And the fourth thing is to love unconditionally every ones right to do as they choose and to refuse to take part in something that is not right for you. Do not condemn the acts of others that do not please you. Simply separate yourself from their attempt to pull you into something that will be of no benefit to either party in the long run. Rather, it creates a situation that is the loss of freedom for every one. Let us now declare that we are entering a new consciousness where love of one another will heal the worst of wounds and bring a glorious new day where harmony and respect for the value of all experience is the truth. Order out of chaos